How is it Wednesday already?! And look at me go, 3 posts in 2 days! Whoop! As always todays link up brought to you by Skinny Meg. Anywho, today I am going to talk about working out with your spouse, significant other, or whatever you’d like to call them. Let me start by saying I love hubs to death (clearly, I married the guy!); but under NO circumstances do we workout well together. For some reason it has always been this way.
Lets back up a tad, shall we? Hubs and I started dating in 2000 (I was 17, he was 18). He was headed off to college and we decided to go to the gym together one day. Now, this girl is not what you would consider athletic, graceful, or anything of that nature. Klutzy, spastic, and uncoordinated would be more like it. So we head to the gym and about 30 minutes in self-appointed trainer hubs decides we will have a push-up marathon. Then I cried. Thats right ladies and gentlemen I cried (and I am not a crier). That was the end of the working out together.
It took me 6 months to get him to come to crossfit with me and now he is gang busters about it. However, we don’t workout at the same time (usually). On Saturdays when we do team WODs we are on different teams (we were on the same team twice, then we told the coach he needed to put us on separate teams because we just argued when we got home about it).
(Hubs at his first competition!)
This my friends is the beauty of both people being stubborn, competitive, and every other thing of that nature. We don’t let things go when competition is involved. I think it comes down to working out is one of those things we do for ourselves and that is okay. Honestly, I’d rather stand there and cheer for him instead of lifting next to him. It works for us and thats how it is. Sure, there is banter about who was “better” today at the gym, who RX’d more this week, and so forth at the dinner table but we just can’t do it at the gym.
(At Crossfit Carolina Beach Thanksgiving 2012)
There are LOTS of people at our gym that workout together, and that’s awesome and it works for them. Perfect example: at the gym a few days ago one of the guys was trying to help his wife do a wall climb and was pulling her feet upwards. She wanted to get down and he was “encouraging” her. Obviously, they were fine with this but I said out loud “this is why Nick and I don’t workout together.”.
(Crossfit Tourque in Foxboro, Mass Christmas 2012)
We are each others biggest cheerleaders, and the first to high five the other one when they finish the WOD, we just aren’t meant to be gym buddies. The exception to this is when we are at other gyms and traveling. Then it is better. I don’t know why. Maybe it is the fact we don’t know anyone, the idea that its a new gym and there is so much information to absorb quickly, the new atmosphere…who knows but it just works better when we travel.
(Crossfit One — home of Crossfit last Christmas 2012!)
How about you all? Do you work out with your spouse? Is it good for your relationship or is it one of those things you need to do for yourself.